Monday, November 15, 2010

PERFECTION: AUTHOR INTERVIEW AND GIVEAWAY

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PERFECTION
BY JULIE METZ

ABOUT THE BOOK:
Julie Metz had seemingly the perfect life—an adoring husband, a happy, spirited daughter, a lovely old house in a quaint suburban town—but it was all a lie.
Julie Metz’s life changed forever on one ordinary January afternoon when her husband, Henry, collapsed on the kitchen floor and died in her arms. Suddenly, this mother of a six-year-old became the young widow in her bucolic small town. But that was only the beginning. Seven months after Henry’s death, just when Julie thought she was emerging from the worst of it, came the rest of it: She discovered that what had appeared to be the reality of her marriage was but a half-truth. Henry had hidden another life from her.

Perfection is the story of Metz’s journey through chaos and transformation as she creates a different life for herself and for her young daughter. It is the story of rebuilding both a life and an identity after betrayal and widowhood, of rebirth and happiness—if not perfection.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

I am a writer, graphic designer, and artist. In addition to Perfection I have written essays and commentary for publications including The New York Times, The Huffington Post, Hemispheres, Glamour, and mrbellersneighborhood. I received a MacDowell Fellowship in 2008 where I completed work on Perfection and began work on a novel. I live in Brooklyn, N.Y.

I am a born and raised New Yorker. I grew up on the Upper West Side of Manhattan during the 1960s and 70s, before it got fancy. I still miss the old neighborhood and the marigold yellow kitchen of my childhood where I did most of my homework on the kitchen table—round, white, Formica.

I often forget names but I never forget a face.

As a young child I attended a Waldorf School and I credit these years with supporting my creative drive. Later I switched to a private girls school on the Upper East Side, quite the opposite kind of environment, though I still found a refuge in the art room. I did not love my middle and high school years but we did learn how to write. I took Latin for six years and still regret that I didn’t study harder.

I have always been a letter writer, which is how PERFECTION began.

I love cats, even the scraggly ones. I used to pick up sad strays, but now we have two and that’s plenty. I get to know dogs one at a time, but I think there might be one in my future...

I love to dance and I think I’m pretty good at it. It’s a time when my natural shyness fades away.

Some other jobs I’ve had in my life: summer babysitter, art class model, envelope stuffer, restaurant dishwasher, canvasser for the failed ERA Amendment, paste-up artist in the advertising department at Carnegie Hall, junior staff designer at Harper & Row Publishers, freelance designer before computers. The most challenging and rewarding job I’ve had is being a mother, because the job description changes every day.

I am the world’s biggest skeptic, but try me.

AUTHOR INTERVIEW:

Q: Welcome and thank you for agreeing to do an interview for Bookin with Bingo. Is there any personal information you would like to start out with today?
A: Thanks so much for having me as a guest! For those who are not familiar with me or my book, I am Julie Metz, author of the memoir Perfection. This is my first book and was a New York Times bestseller. I live in New York City with my boyfriend and my daughter, who is now 14.

Q: Where did you get the inspiration or idea for this book?
A: Seven months after my husband’s sudden death, I discovered his secret life. The events happened to me, all in a rush, I had been keeping a journal and writing to friends. Several friends suggested that I write about what had happened. One friend in particular was a writer and she gave me the following advice: go home, sit for twenty minutes a day, see what happens.

Q: How did the title of your book come about?
A: The title Perfection is somewhat ironic…and not. At the time of his death my husband was working on a food book about Umami, the Japanese concept of perfection. So my title evolved as a comment on how our search for perfection often leads women to cover over the aspects of themselves that might feel less than perfect.

Q: Do you see yourself in your characters? Which characters are easiest or more difficult to write?
A: In fiction, I think writers often bring something of what they have observed in themselves or others to their characters. In writing a memoir the task is to recreate actual people and events. It’s hardest to write an unsympathetic character in a way that creates sympathy in the reader.

Q: What books would you say have made the biggest impression on you, especially starting out? What are you currently reading?
A: I’ve been a lifelong reader. I love Jane Austen, the Bronte sisters, Dickens, E.M. Forster, Joyce, Virginia Woolf. My education was pretty traditional so I read a lot of classics at school and that continued after college. More recently I am a huge fan of Alice Munro, Richard Ford, Jennifer Egan, Jhumpa Lahiri, Kiran Desai, Lorrie Moore to name a few. I read mostly novels and short stories, even when I worked on my memoir. Right now I am reading Jonathan Franzen’s Freedom, selected by my book group!

Q: What project are you working on now?
A: I am working on a novel…

Q: What is something about you that you would want people to know about you that we probably don’t know?
A: I spend much of my time at home, often in some version of pajamas.

Q: Do you own an eReader of any kind and how do you feel about their impact on books as well as you as an author?
A: No e-reader yet…I am a late adopter. I do love my laptop and my iPhone, so I am sure I’ll get one in the future, though for now I still like the feel of paper. I am happy when people are reading, it doesn’t matter to me much what the format is. I wonder if e-Readers might have a negative effect on the world of book cover design.

Q: What is your advice to anyone, including young people, who want to be writers?
A: Read good books—even when it makes you doubt your own talent, you’ll learn so much from reading good writers.
Go home, sit at your desk for twenty minutes a day. See what happens. In a year you’ll have a lot of pages.

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Anonymous said...

WOW, I'm the 1st to post a comment. I saw Julie Metz when she was featured on Oprah and would love to read her book.

The premise of this memoir interested me and the title, as mentioned, is ironic. We always seem to think others have perfect lives and if only... This book reveals that the grass isn't always greener.

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Anonymous said...

I found that I have a couple things in common with Julie:

. I'm also a homebody and pj's are my outfit of choice.

. I prefer the feel of paper to digital. I will admit that e-readers are convenient sometimes so I may cave eventually and splurge on one.

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I am a follower and email subscriber. Please enter me in contest. It must have been hard on the character losing her husband like that. The book really sounds like a good read. Tore923@aol.com

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I found her comment "Go home, sit at your desk for twenty minutes a day. See what happens. In a year you’ll have a lot of pages" to work for most things in life. I always had this saying, "The way to eat a giant Jello elephant is one bite at a time." Persistence on a daily basis will bring success on any endeavor. This book sounds like an emotional read and one that I am sure was emotional for Julie to write. Julie stated on her web site that her husband Henry was a charming man with a huge amount of charisma and because of that charisma she now has trouble trusting men that exhibit this quality. I can understand her fear because of what she went through, but I also believe that infidelity can happen with an extrovert or an introvert. This book sounds like one that I would like to read so thanks for hosting this giveaway.

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Margie said...

This looks like a fascinating memoir. It would be interesting to see how she handles the feelings of grief and betrayal simultaneously.
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Margie said...

It was interesting to see that the book started out as a series of letters to friends. And...being a dog lover, I liked to see that a dog may be in her future!
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Thanks for the giveaway. This sounds like the kind of changing life story I would enjoy.

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Pamela Keener said...

What an interesting book. I am sure it was hard to go through that especially after a period of time in the grieving process. I can't imagine the pain resurfacing in another unexpected crisis.
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Pamela Keener said...

I like how the Title of the book reflects what her husband was writing and possibly her perception of her marriage prior to learning the truth.
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Alison's Book Marks said...

I'm still catching my breath from learning that this is Julie's actual story! Wow. I can not wait to read the book now. Thank you for a great interview!

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Anonymous said...

I would like read this book because I am interested in how her husband kept his second life secret!


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Anonymous said...

I am shocked and sad that this situation happened to her! That would be such a difficult surprise to get over.
Also, I like what her friend said,"sit at her desk for 20 minutes and see what happend".

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I think that the author has courage and is able to write about this experience is admirable. rojosho(at)hotmail(dot)com

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Interesting premise to this book and the future of her writing including a dog is lovely. saubleb(at)gmail(dot)com

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"She discovered that what had appeared to be the reality of her marriage was but a half-truth. Henry had hidden another life from her."
I am totally fascinated by the people who live double lives


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Lisa R/alterlisa said...

OMG- I didn't realize this was based on something that had happen to Metz. I just assumed that it was a fiction book.


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bloggingmom said...

This book looks so interesting. I am also a New Yorker and a book lover. I would enjoy reading her book very much.

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Amy said...

I really want to read this book because Julie Metz is an inspiration. She went through some unimagineably difficult times and came out ahead. I don't know what I'd do if my husband died suddenly and, after coping with his death and gaining a foothold in life again, I discover some terrible reality of his life I wasn't aware of because he hid it from me. That Julie manages to get through whatever this is and continue to care for her child is amazing.

Thank you so much for hosting a giveaway of this book!

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Amy said...

Julie Metz lives in Brooklyn, which is great, and she loves all cats even the straggly ones which is wonderful!

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Christa said...

Wow! This book seems so intriguing! I don't know how someone holds them self together through such an unthinkable loss at a young age...then finding out the marriage wasn't what it seemed! I really want to know what her husband was hiding and how she over comes the obstacles life has thrown at her.

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Great interview, Bingo! I really liked her comments about e-readers. Although I have no additional comment on the future of book cover design, I work with a number of people that own e-readers and more than one has commented that they read more than ever because they own it.
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hendy said...

Well I'm dying to know what her husband's secret was-it appears she's picked up the pieces now but I'm sure the process was devastating.
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I found it interesting that Julie is currently reading Freedom (just as I am though I'm listening)-Interested to know what she thinks of it.
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Christa said...

I loved Julie Metz's interview. She seems very down to earth and approachable. I can't believe her first book became a New York Times best seller. That's so cool! I'm really interested in her book...I want to find out how she dealt with the circumstances given her and what her husbands long time secrets were.

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First I thought it was a good story, then I discovered it was true. That makes it more interesting.

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sunshine9 said...

I was also a young widow with 2 children--then 5 and 9 (now 21 and 25) I would like to read how the author coped during the grieving process. Nothing ever is as it seems. . .

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irony. . . readers and writers-how we cope with life
The irony of Julie's book title and the title of her late husband's book seems a great way to deal with different stages of grief. . . enough said

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Henry had hidden another life from her. That does interest me!

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What I found most interesting was "how" you came up with the title of the book.

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I found it interesting that Ms. Metz spends much of her time at home in her pajamas. Oh, to have that job! :-)

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